2023-08-07-0825
8-7-2023 8am It is a useful reframe to think of these issues of estrangement and alienation, which arise mostly in (but not only in) divorce dynamics, as a feature, rather than a problem . This reframe helps us shift away from blame and negative thinking, to a feature to contend with and work through. Then one can go back and, again rather than blaming or making it personal, to realize that evil takes a hold of everyone and a hold of situations. It just is. Like weeds sprouting in a garden. One must contend with, and often give the devil his due. Going back, then, one would think it is best to slow down and really work through interpersonal issues, to identify issues and features. Best not to divorce. One feature of modern thinking is that divorce solves many issues, so divorce is sold as a lesser of several evils. It is not often understood that when issues are not properly dealt with, then can grow and spread in unimaginable destructive ways. Scapegoating, witch ...